29 Sep

People say that girls make the best-est friends, whether it is as sisters, somebody you share your bus seat with, your friend from the breakfast table or your cubicle mate. You will always find a girl around you with whom you can share something with, even if it is the big bore that you keep coming across in the washroom. A small smile and an understanding starts brewing. No wonder there are words like soul-sisters whereas there is nothing like a soul-brother. Each girl is like a package. She is like ‘Bertie’s Every Flavor Beans’. She can be the flavor you want her to be. She will laugh and cry with you. If she is your best friend she will even make fun of you, but unlike the way a guy does it, it will be in private. She will be very careful with what she says lest she hurts your sentiments as she tackles the wild side of you. She will be there to lend you an ear. And she will actually listen. 🙂 Men don’t. They only make sure that you don’t brood over it, but they generally do not have the patience to hear you out. (Hasn’t happened with me, but I know a lot of women who will swear by it) She will conspire with you and she will keep your secrets. Once in a while out of spite she will also be a bitch and do the back stabbing thing. But most girls do come back straight alright once they have had their go for all the mental reasons that only they can think of. She will giggle and guffaw with you over silly things. And she will be the drama queen to have things her way.

I am all smiles now.

I cannot half believe it that I could have ever said this. Bought up like a guy and with guys has always made me think that boys make the most wonderful friends. They will stand by you as brothers, friends, body-guards (remembering how many guys have been beaten and had their shirts torn off), pretense-boyfriends, advisors and what not. Maybe that is why I am so tom-boyish and not the girly-girl. Being brought up with guys, kind of makes you tough. You learn to scrape your knees and elbows and learn nothing of shyness and grace. You learn to keep your tears in check. 1) Because men won’t let you cry. Nobody knows how to make fun of a bout of tears the way a guy does. 2) It becomes a matter of self-respect to cry in front of a guy. You have to be as tough as they are. They will play the fool to make you laugh. And they will teach you obscene language so that you never get ragged. They are the ones who will come back to you even after a fall out. They will apologize if they know that you are the stubborn one. If you are a tom, they will forget that you are a girl. You will be let in to all their secrets and included in all their groups. You will be amazed to find yourself walking arm-in-arm and arm-over-shoulders with them. They are the ones who will go out of the way to do anything for you, the ones that will say “Anything for you Ma’am” and you will be left wondering since when did you start getting addressed with a feminine tag. They will be the first ones to notice whether you got your threading done or not, with the insensitiveness to point out what the lady at the parlour missed. They will be the ones to tell you that the other guys are going to ogle at you in a particular attire. They will not mind when you don’t use eyeliner, but they will be curious enough to know why not. They would like it if you would wear a skirt because it is a reminder of sorts that they are hanging around with a girl, but they will curse and damn the same skirt if it makes you sit unnaturally with your legs on one side on a bike. A different species they are!


5 Responses to “F R I E N D S”

  1. Abhishek - - Jai September 29, 2011 at 1:38 PM #

    I like the part – where shirts get torn off 😛

  2. Ramandeep Kaur September 29, 2011 at 8:38 PM #


  3. Shivu October 13, 2011 at 4:28 PM #

    @Abhi – I know, I know :P@Raman – Thank you 🙂

  4. Manisha Awasthi October 24, 2011 at 2:45 PM #

    Well Written Shivu… :))

  5. Shivu October 31, 2011 at 1:57 PM #

    Thanks Manisha 😀

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