6 Sep
“Love is not finding someone to live with. It’s about finding a person whom we cant live without!!”

Love is not a weakness. It is the pillar of strength for every life. Such a small word! Yet, so powerful. Love is what makes the world go round. Just, as I say the word, I see varied expressions all about me. I see fire rising in some cheeks. On some, a passing glimpse of a faint smile. While some eyes are caught a few degrees lower, there are a few which are bold enough to look up and dare the world to challenge their love. I have met many who toss their head nonchalantly and shrug their shoulders at the mere mention of the word. But, let me tell you that those who put on a mask of their carefree attitude towards love are the ones who care the most about it. This proves that there are none in this world who don’t react to the word. All those who manage to keep a straight face are worthy of the Oscars. And those who actually manage to murder any thought or general feeling towards love are stone cold dead.

Love has an aura of its own. A sweet fragrance-from the lily to the wild flowers. When the sea is at calm and alls tranquil within the being, it’s the lily that appeals. And the wild flowers signify stronger emotions like jealousy and passion. Love is hope-a soaring bird. Love is like the essence that can’t be bottled up. Love is what you can hear even in the rustling of the leaves. It spreads within like a rippling cascade. It is the only emotion which is satisfying to both-the heart and the mind, though neither seem to be in agreement when you are in love.

Over the years, the word has been stereotyped to the boy-girl love. Is it not reason to lament that the meaning has been confined to such a small extent. Why have people forgotten that all of us were born with love? Didn’t our angel shower all the love upon us? Love is not only shown through the 3 words-‘I love you’, it is action that speaks louder than words.

Isn’t mothers love, the biggest example for this? Dear mamma’s caress, her tender care, her gentle smile, her knowing eyes and all that she does unasked for her child, is nothing but a form of love. It is our first dose of love, to which most of us are blind, even unaware, because to us it is more like maternal duty. This is something which we will never be able to repay, how much ever we earn. Love sought is good, but given unsought is better still.

What is a bond that binds a child to the father? It is love. His eyes are moist as he first holds the baby. The child has conquered the man. A feat achieved, which none other could dare. The desire to give the best to his child he slogs like a slave. Oh! The expectations that build up inside the fierce heart. Here begins a new life. The soul divides. One lives in the father and the other in the child. A father’s love is ambition!

Ever seen the great love between siblings? No you will never see it, because it is invisible to all except for those who experience it. Pulling each others hair till you have a fistful of it and throwing punches at each other is something they enjoy and others gape at. But, this is just what gets them closer to understand, share and to discuss out their problems. A similar someone by your side makes you feel so special about yourself. How bugging is it when an elder brother or sister gives you a non stop commentary on how to do things in the so called “right-way”. Love is a teacher. It teaches you the small lessons of daily life. Have you ever noticed that you become the center of attention for your parents when you are injured? But, your sibling gets mad at you, screams his/her head off and comments upon your carelessness and nags you. You might as well hate him/her for it. But, look into his eyes and you will immediately seethe pain they are undergoing, seeing you hurt. It’s just their way of letting you know how much they love you. Their life wouldn’t be worthwhile without you. The elder child never stops treating the younger one like a fledgling under the mother’s wing, even though the age gap might not be more than a year. The baby of the house is not just another bundle of joy, it is a duty given to the elder one- the one who must never cease to care, never cease to love, even though he might find the younger one a nasty pain in the neck. Loving is caring. Try as might as they may to hate each other, they will still find themselves bound by the cohesive forces of love.

It is said that grandparents love is incomparable because it is the only kind of love that has no expectations. Then why should I reduce its value by comparing it?

A single bond of love is what holds people together. What should I say about a friends love? There is but a thin line between true friendship and love. I prefer not to do injustice to either of them. So, the best thing to do is to leave it unsaid here. The hearts understand each other well enough to understand this.

The boy-girl love has been termed ‘blind’. It is most likely that in this case you will that most of your sense organs have failed. This is because; this is the only type of love that you are unaware of until you experience it. You cannot feel its joy till you have discovered it. And it takes you several years to bump into it. Be thankful that you did bump into it because:

“Having fallen in love and failed is bad,
But not to have experienced it at all is worse still”.

It is not the ability to think, but also the power to love that makes man an outstanding being.

Love is eternal.

Yet, after so many words, I think……………love is undefined.

15 Responses to “MY THESIS ON LOVE”

  1. Afroz September 6, 2007 at 8:36 PM #

    So here it is…well I had the pleasure of feasting my eyes on this, much before most of you here, and I consider myself fortunate for that…….Her thesis on love !!, my views differ a bit "If you think you are in love, think again", that's my view….well beautifully written, very like Shivani….and i would like to see a few more Tigeress (well before i die, kyunki pata nahin iska next post kab hoga)PS: It helped when it came to my Literature term paper !!

  2. freakygenius September 7, 2007 at 8:02 PM #


  3. Ankita September 8, 2007 at 12:56 AM #

    hey…gud job shivani.well crafted n nicely presented…

  4. raks September 8, 2007 at 2:02 AM #

    Nice words.. ."those who put on a mask of their carefree attitude towards love are the ones who care the most about it.".. quite true observation of insecure human feelings.Also the family-love is well brought in the picture Friendship and love, no comment in this respect, disappoints a bit (My guess are not always correct but i guess that you are in this dilemma rite now.).praiseworthy this blog is.. i'd like to add some more aspects to be thought upon about "love". Love is something..which knows no good… no evil. All the definitions of this world ends when you are in love.. all the trends.. all the predictability ends when you encounter love.. Love is an adventure. I wouldn't say much…but yeah.. its not like some "roar" its music of flowing river.

  5. Shivu September 8, 2007 at 11:23 AM #

    thanx ppl…n afro u were right…ppl do read blogs…n all the time here i have been thinking ki koi padhta nahi hai…nice…the other aspects of luv r a warm welcome…rmr roz…ur inputs…gr8 yaar!!P.S. : raks…u can keep guessing 😉

  6. sunayana September 8, 2007 at 3:28 PM #

    amazing babes… but i know its not even 5% of what you think about love.. nevertheless a good attempt.. and i'd be more interested of i'd found names here.. ha ha ha.. kidding! good job.. god bless!

  7. Shankar Narayan V R September 8, 2007 at 7:32 PM #

    nice one to read…

  8. Kaipa Kartik September 8, 2007 at 8:00 PM #

    Well its a good article. Boy Girl love rocks because that is what earns money i guess and it is the most bankable script by far although as per hollywood horror is the most profitable genre . Drake also observes that it has become a trend these days to write articles on some subject and add the end saying you cannot put it in words although you have already put it in so many words:). Hope for more articles with no conclusions. By the way this is exactly what my mom keeps on telling me when I tell her that hindi movies are crap

  9. nilesh patel September 16, 2007 at 12:35 PM #

    Hey shivu…Nice article…When first time i read the title,i thot,it would be based on gal-boy luv…bt it wsnt…nice wordings abt partents & siblings luv…we take everything for granted…though i believe tht, u cud have put more words on frndship….& obviously gal-boy luv too..its hot topic neday :PHope to see more articles 4m jadi…keep blogging…cheers…

  10. soumya September 19, 2007 at 11:54 PM #

    NEAT YA !!liked it…………..not many ppl r so clear headed abt such a complex emotion as love……………. keep up !

  11. Abhishek - - Jai October 17, 2007 at 3:08 AM #

    wow .. 'mazing shivani .. and i gotta say .. its quite simply said (:P) i believe .. you could yanter along a lot more about love and make it an even more long-ass essay (:P)but great job .. i think u hv another blog coming up soon .. waiting for it impatiently …

  12. Abhishek - - Jai October 17, 2007 at 3:10 AM #

    and Afroz mentioned the following, quoting him .."If you think you are in love, think again"Amen to that [:D]

  13. amit August 24, 2008 at 11:04 PM #

    Superb.It definately takes to another world

  14. Sajit February 11, 2011 at 11:31 PM #

    Too good.. Superb..!!

  15. Shivu February 14, 2011 at 9:28 AM #

    Thank you 🙂

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